An eyeful a day does what? 3/1/2008
		Like many of you, I receive numerous email jokes. A recent email caught my attention because I had just finished readin ...
	The Freedom of a Sabbatical 2/1/2008
		Several pastors have recently called to schedule a Quiet Waters Counseling Intensive as a part of their sabbatical. Are ...
	Pastoring Now and Then 1/1/2008
		Jim Schlottmans article last month struck a nerve with me. I think he is definitely on to something. I remember that t ...
	Happy Birthday! 12/1/2007
		A roving reporter stopped six people on the sidewalks of New York and asked, "What was the most important happening in h ...
	Prayer Brakes 11/1/2007
		Since Quiet Waters Ministries serves pastors with Intensive Counseling, I am often asked why pastors today are having so ...
	Step Out of the Traffic 10/1/2007
		In this passage from The Message paraphrase of Psalm 46:10, Eugene Peterson captures a current daily experience that is ...
	Pastors and the Public Square 10/1/2007
		For me as a layperson interested in the messy intersections of life that confront the serious believer, the issue of Chr ...
	New Myth Tells Pastor Wives They Can Do It All: Church, Career, Kids 10/1/2007
		About a year ago, late in the evening at a Christian retreat near Toronto, Ontario, I was sitting with two other pastors ...
	Training Effective Church Leaders 10/1/2007
		Who are the current and future persons who will lead your church? How trained are the guiding and directing heads ...
	CareGivers Forum 10/1/2007
		Large snow flakes floated down through the morning sky as I made my way across the meadow. The trees were already weigh ...
	Attitude of Perseverance 9/1/2007
		Monday began with a Chapel service. I am again grateful for the opportunity the Champion Racing Association (CRA) offici ...
	Will you be caught off guard? 8/1/2007
		In a recent phone conversation, a pastor shared with me that his church had been working to develop a Strategic Long Ran ...
	PASTOR MARV 7/1/2007
		When I was a junior in High School, I found God. Or so I thought. He wasn't actually God. He was, in fact, my pastor. Bu ...
	The Coach Wasn't Talking to Me 6/16/2007
		My 10 year old grandson has started playing baseball. Most of his teammates have been playing for several years, so he h ...
	A Timely and Difficult Topic 5/1/2007
		Several months ago, the author of this issue’s article “Harmless?” told me about her experience. When she said she was t ...
	Harmless? The Insidious Influence of the Internet 5/1/2007
		In 1995, my husband, John, visited a Christian Internet chat room for the first time. By all accounts it was a harmle ...
	Lead Us Not IntoTemptation - Five Strategies for Sexual Sobriety 5/1/2007
		The last few months here in the Front Range of Colorado have brought shock and dismay for two area megachurches whose le ...
	Helping a Fallen Brother - What Can We Learn from the Good Samaritan 5/1/2007
		Jesus begins one of the most beloved parables by saying, “A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho...” As you leav ...
	Waterfall Peace 4/1/2007
		On the display banner we put up at conferences and other group meetings is the picture of a person in a kayak coming dow ...
	ON PAIN 3/1/2007
		I just finished another chemo treatment. The start of each treatment is always a bit of an adventure as the nurse looks ...
	Are You Dreaming? 2/1/2007
		Now that you have begun the new year, are you meeting your goals? To help you to look at 2007, I want to share with you ...
	Do Not Be Afraid 12/28/2006
		Last Sunday, my pastor Don Sweeting told us that most of the time when an angel appeared in the Bible, the angel had to ...
	Idealization 11/30/2006
		With this issue of Compass, you will experience a little bit of the past summer’s Quiet Waters Leadership Couples Retrea ...
	Living Under the Shadow of Idealization 11/30/2006
		Over the years, I have observed that being “set aside” for ministry often means being idealized in such a way that peopl ...
	On Being the Daughter of the King 11/30/2006
		I just finished reading Private Lives of Pastors’ Wives by Ruth A. Tucker. To my surprise I found out that as much as I ...
	Sons and Daughters of Encouragement 11/30/2006
		Barnabas was, by his name’s meaning, the “Son of Encouragement” (Acts 4:36). He demonstrated his gift of encouragement t ...
	Restoration 11/30/2006
		Restore is one of the three elements of the mission of Quiet Waters Ministries, “to renew, restore and strengthen Christ ...
	Dilbert's Wisdom 9/1/2006
		Many of you probably join me in reading the thought provoking comic strip DILBERT by Scott Adams. You may remember a rec ...
	The Pastor's Office 7/1/2006
		"Some days I would like to just look out the window of my office and commune with God, but I'm afraid that someone will ...
	People Expect Things 6/1/2006
		Bill Crowder, RBC Ministries Director of Church Ministries tells of his excitement when he heard in 2004, that Disney co ...
	Done with Darkness 5/1/2006
		It was some time during my sixth year in ministry that a tree spoke to me. I was making a one-day retreat, and after I a ...
	Spiritual Formation, Becoming More Like Jesus 5/1/2006
		Have you ever wondered why many of the Christians you know aren’t becoming more like Jesus in their attitudes and action ...
	Murder in the Parsonage 5/1/2006
		On March 22, 2006, in Selmer, Tennessee, Matthew Winkler, described as “a popular and charismatic 31-year-old preacher,” ...
	Why No One Was Covering the Phone 5/1/2006
		Many churches gear up for outreach-oriented ministry during the holiday seasons. Thousands of churches offer seasonal mu ...
	The Five Dysfunctions of a Team 3/1/2006
		If you are in ministry, you are part of a team. In a small church you have a lay leader team. In a large church you migh ...
	Pornography - the Path to Addiction 2/1/2006
		A few years back, I was asked to make a presentation about the problem of pornography to a group of denominational leade ...
	Black Ice 1/1/2006
		As we started down the long hill on I 70 near Georgetown, I hit black ice. A helpless feeling came over me as I realized ...
	Astronaut's Prayer 12/1/2005
		Remember on that hushed Christmas Eve when three American astronauts orbited the moon ...
	Pray with Thanksgiving 11/1/2005
		You’ve just gone through one of the two very busy holidays for a pastor that take place this time of the year. You ...
	The Brotherhood 10/1/2005
		Are you going through a particularly difficult time right now? As a Christian leader or Christian leader’s spou ...
	The Kingdom Work Continues 10/1/2005
		In our last issue of Compass, I shared with you how God has been enlarging our territory as we join in this Kingdom Work ...
	How’s Your Landing Gear Holding Up? 10/1/2005
		Who can forget the image? Earlier this year, a Jet Blue plane’s nosewheel failed to retract on takeoff. Then, on closer ...
	Restitution: Going Beyond Forgiveness 10/1/2005
		At first glance, giving and receiving forgiveness appears to be sufficient resolution of most interpersonal conflicts. H ...
	The Hole 10/1/2005
		It’s a big hole. It hasn’t been here very long, The dirt around it is still untramped. But the sad crowd ...
	Spiritual Formation: Waiting for Your Soul to Catch Up 10/1/2005
		In the deep jungles of Africa, a traveler was making a long trek. Coolies had been engaged from a tribe to carry the loa ...
	Six Keys and Eighty-Seven Ways 8/1/2005
		As I looked at the magazine on the coffee table at my son’s home, two article titles on the cover of an issue of the G ...
	Stop at every Oasis 7/1/2005
		Do you find yourself skipping dinner with your family to visit a member in the hospital, giving up your day off for a ...
	Know Who You Are Before Heading to Open Water 5/1/2005
		As a boy, my father and I spent late nights one summer making a fiberglass canoe from one of those mail order kits. Fr ...
	Kingdom Work 5/1/2005
		If you were to stay at our Retreat Home, stand at the kitchen sink, and look out at the beautiful backyard, you would se ...
	Disciplines for Effective Leaders: Part 2, Competent in Conflict 5/1/2005
		In the previous issue of Compass, I offered the first five of ten core disciplines for a proactive approach to conflict ...
	COMPROMISED? 5/1/2005
		One of the most intriguing books I have ever read (although it seems it took me forever to finish it) was The Body by Ch ...
	Counseling Intensives with Clergy: Can This Couple Be Fixed? 5/1/2005
		As one of a team of therapists with Quiet Waters Ministries that hosts Counseling Intensives for Christian Leaders and T ...
	Are you ready to rumble? 4/1/2005
		In Denver we are privileged to have several professional sports teams. Three of the teams, the “Crush” arena football ...
	Double Honor 3/1/2005
		In my office are photos of six Native American Indians. Three of them are Chiefs – Chief Joseph, the Nez Perce leader ...
	One Couples Story 2/1/2005
		What follows is a letter I recently received from a couple who attended a Quiet Waters Leadership Counseling Intensive. ...
	Unionize or Union? 1/1/2005
		As I paged through the magazine, the news article headline caught my attention. It stated, “Disgruntled Canadian Clergy ...
	Soul-Cleaning 12/1/2004
		An article I read recently caught my attention. It was written by a friend of mine, Jim Kok who is the chaplain at a ...
	Holidays - Joyful? 11/1/2004
		The holiday season is full of joy and good will. Everyone is kinder and more caring during Thanksgiving and Christmas ...
	Serious Issues in Our Society 11/1/2004
		This past week I had the opportunity to listen to H. B. London speak to a gathering of pastors and lay leaders. He share ...
	Disciplines for Effective Leaders: Part 1, Competent in Conflict 11/1/2004
		Over a decade ago I was serving as associate pastor of a large church in Denver, Colorado embroiled in deep conflict. Th ...
	The Mysterious Decline of Reverend MacMillan, A Cautionary Tale 11/1/2004
		Wilma Rogers returned to the veranda, carrying the tea tray. “We need a cup, ladies, to recover from that exhausting rou ...
	Facing Messy Stuff in the Church How’s the Church doing? 11/1/2004
		Acouple of years ago I read Mike Yaconelli’s book Messy Spirituality (Zondervan, 2002). It’s a provocative description o ...
	Burnout- Battle Fatigue 9/1/2004
		This week I was going through some old papers and came across in an article in the Harvard Business Review by Mr. Harr ...
	Double Honor 8/1/2004
		As a pastor was sharing the difficult situations he was facing in his ministry, he said to me, “I wouldn’t put up with ...
	Quiet Time 7/1/2004
		This past weekend we held our 2004 Leadership Family Retreat. Our featured speaker this year was Dr. David Ross. We ha ...
	How’s Your Preaching? 6/1/2004
		As I sat enjoying my meal, the other people at the table were complaining about the menu, the preparation of the food, a ...
	Sabbatical Experience 5/1/2004
		In 1999 (I had been at the church for eight years) we began discussions about Sabbatical. The initial conversations w ...
	The Anniversary Gift 4/1/2004
		When I got off the phone, I was exhausted. The past hour had drained me emotionally. As I had listened to this pasto ...
	Extreme Makeover 4/1/2004
		My wife, Barb, seldom watches television, but this particular night she had control of the remote. As she flipped throug ...
	Gregory’s in the Congregation: Renewing the Role of the Church in Preparation for Ministry 4/1/2004
		On Christmas Day, A.D. 361, an aged priest named Gregory ordained his son (also named Gregory) to succeed him in the Cap ...
	Is God Happy Living in Your Temple? 4/1/2004
		Recently, Secretary of Health and Human Services, Tommy Thompson, announced a nationwide government campaign to fight th ...
	Whadhesay? Speaking So People Get the Message 4/1/2004
		As a speaking-voice coach, I find that almost everyone needs some help in developing a richer, more engaging delivery st ...
	How to Avoid Loneliness: 3 Tips 3/1/2004
		He stood alone in the narthex of the church. As I exited the sanctuary, I expected to see a long line of people waiti ...
	Burn-Out is Part of God’s Plan 2/1/2004
		As I receive calls enquiring about our ministries, I speak with many who are experiencing burn-out. So when I heard D ...
	Conflict and the Call 1/1/2004
		One of the services we provide at Quiet Waters is training and consultation for churches. Often when we begin a traini ...
	Forgiveness a Key to Success 12/1/2003
		Karl Mecklenburg, former Denver Broncos All-Pro defensive player, spoke at a recent meeting of my Kiwanis club. His topi ...
	CHARLES DICKENS AND JESUS CHRIST 12/1/2003
		At this time of the year, we hear and see many versions of Charles Dickens’, “A Christmas Carol”. But ...
	How To Find Your Vision 11/1/2003
		On a recent airline flight I read with interest an article about golf in the airline publication, “Hemispheres&rdq ...
	What Are You Doing to Prevent a Crisis? 10/1/2003
		October has been declared Pastor Appreciation Month, and I know you’ll enjoy Dan Hauser’s tribute to a pastor in this is ...
	Have We Forgotten How to Dream? 10/1/2003
		My wife, Becky, and I had a free evening recently, so we made up a bowl of popcorn and watched the film The Rookie
	Your Church Split Offends God 10/1/2003
		When I was learning to type, there was a phrase we had to type repeatedly: “Now is the time for all good men to come to ...
	CALLED TO THE PASTORATE: What’s a Woman to Do? 10/1/2003
		The phone call came on the Monday after I had preached my very first sermon in the new church. “Pastor?” a friendly femi ...
	A TRIBUTE TO PASTORS 10/1/2003
		Many people have seen their pastors as shepherds, mentors, teachers, or even their “heroes.” I’d like to tell you about ...
	Build One Another Up in LOVE 10/1/2003
		October has been proclaimed Pastor Appreciation Month by Focus on the Family and other pastoral organizations. That proc ...
	Don’t Burn Out 9/1/2003
		“I’m just not feeling well,” said a pastor calling for information about Quiet Waters Ministries. In r ...
	How can I explode with someone else’s explosion? 6/1/2003
		Every day you receive mailings about seminars offering to teach you how to do “better”. That includes &ldquo ...
	Quitting, Finishing Well, and Embracing Change 4/1/2003
		Are you thinking of quitting... or are you nearing the finish line of your ministry or career? Or perhaps you’re going t ...
	MENTORING Toward the Finish Line 4/1/2003
		The need for leaders to “finish well” has been roundly and vigorously championed for some time now. Though the idea may ...
	Embracing Change: Embarking on a Journey of Growth 4/1/2003
		Someone has said, “We all experience change, and the vast majority of us don’t like it.” For most of my life I was clear ...
	I Want to Quit! 4/1/2003
		I’d had it. My husband Craig was exhausted, spent, used up—and so was I. People were cranky. To be completely truthful, ...
	Amidst the Loud Noise 4/1/2003
		We cried together as he poured out the story of the disaster that once was his marriage. There we were in a tent on the ...
	My Red Wagon 2/1/2003
		When I was a little boy, I had a red wagon. I pulled that wagon all over our yard. One of the important tasks I had give ...
	Kid Wisdom - Are You Listening? 1/1/2003
		When I picked up my six-year-old grandson from school the other day, I asked him what he had learned in school. He said ...
	Relational Mentoring, Guiding a Soul from Desert to Joy 10/15/2002
		What happened to the 603,450 soldiers who left Sinai to journey through the desert to the Promised Land? All but two ...
	"Help me, Pastor, I can't take it anymore!", Ministry with the Suicidal 10/15/2002
		The emergency call came late Sunday afternoon just as Pastor Jones (not his real name) was starting to unwind after a ...
	Great Expectations 10/15/2002
		If I've learned anything in thirty-nine years of ministry, it's that congregations have unrealistic expectations of t ...
	What God Had Brought About For His People 10/15/2002
		As I sat in the lobby of Focus on the Family waiting for Roger Charman of Pastoral Ministries, I noticed a plaque pro ...
	From Crisis to Confidence 10/15/2002
		Leadership brings with it unique opportunities and obligations opportunities to make a positive impact on those aroun ...
	PERMISSION 3/15/2002
		Once upon a time there was a pastor. He was a most unusual pastor really, seldom following the conventional wisdom r ...
	WHAT WENT WRONG? WHO WAS THE BLAME? 3/15/2002
		The phone call was from a young man seven years into his first pastorate. He said, "I don't know how much longer I c ...
	IS THE OUTFIT FOR REAL? 3/15/2002
		Recently, I received the following well-written note in response to one of my fund raising letters. To whom i ...
	EXPECTATION AND THE MINISTRY 3/15/2002
		Each year many hundreds of holiday makers head off for their two weeks in the sun only to find that the glossy brochu ...
	SUPPORTING YOUR PASTOR, HOW TO STAND BEHIND YOUR PASTOR SO HE CAN SURVIVE 3/15/2002
		Editors Note: Mr. Waskey writes from the view point of an elder in a large, suburban church. His senior pastor has ...
	A PROBLEM WE DON'T LIKE TO TALK ABOUT (SEXUAL ETHICS FOR PASTORS) 10/15/2001
		The statistics are frightening. 40% of clergy admit to having done something "sexually inappropriate" with a church m ...
	LET THERE BE PEACE -- IN CHURCH, MORE OFTEN, DESTRUCTIVE CONFLICT IS TEARING UP CHURCHES 10/15/2001
		If there's anyplace one can go to escape the stresses and conflicts of everyday life, it should be church. There, we ...
	MY DEFINING MOMENT WITH QUIET WATERS 10/15/2001
		After twelve years of marriage and nine years of "professional" ministry, it was time to seek counseling. My pattern ...
	FROM THE EDITOR 10/15/2001
		Our world has changed dramatically since I last wrote in this publication. As the Lord led us into this ministry, we ...
	COME ON, PAT, DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT 3/15/2001
		Quiet Waters Leaderhsip Retreat - A Personal Story ...
	CHRISTIAN LEADERS FALLING INTO INTERNET PORNOGRAPHY 3/15/2001
		In the March 2001 issue of Christianity Today, Christine J. Gardner wrote, "pornography use --specifically intern ...
	INTENSIVE COUNSELING - RESTORATION AND TRANSFORMATION 3/15/2001
		Bob was a busy man with many responsibilities. Janet was a stay at home mom, the mother of four, active with the church ...
	MENTORING FOR MINISTRIES - SKILL DEVELOPMENT 3/15/2001
		A few weeks ago I received one of those phone calls that leave you with your mouth open. One of my former mentorees cal ...