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COMPASS ONLINE
A Digital Help Toward Renewal from QuietWaters Ministries
Volume 9, Number 5May 2009
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Greetings!

The vision of Quiet Waters Ministries is to “To ensure that every Christian leader and their families have a place to seek and find restoration and renewal.”
I’ve been thinking a lot about our vision because after nine years of using a private home as our Retreat Home for our Leadership Counseling intensive, we are seeking a permanent “place.”
You will see that I put a great deal of importance in “place” as you read the following article.  Please join us in prayer for our new Quiet Waters Ministries “place” for restoration and renewal.
Blessings,
 
Jim
Quiet Place
by Jim Schlottman
 
Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.” Mark 6:31

Where is your quiet place?

A few years ago I shared with you the comments of a pastor who told me, “Some days I would like to just look out the window of my office and commune with God, but I’m afraid that someone will come in and think I’m just goofing off.”

Working with pastors on a daily basis as I do, you can guess my response, “You have my permission to goof off with God anytime, and you should goof off with him more often.”

Evidently this pastor’s only quiet place was his office.  Maybe that was part of the problem.  He should have sought out a more private quiet place.

In our fast-paced society and because of the nature of your call to be a pastor, I’m sure you often find that like Jesus so many people are coming and going that you don’t even have a chance to eat.  The problem I see is that many of you don’t follow Jesus’ example and go to a quiet place to get some rest.

Some pastors in the Denver metro area spend a day at Sacred Heart, a local Catholic facility just outside of town, for self-guided retreats.  We have plans to provide such retreats when we secure our new retreat home.

For many pastors, Quiet Waters has been their quiet place as they attended one of our Leadership Counseling Intensives.
 
Again I ask you, “where is your quiet place?”  The answer may be that you don’t have a quiet place.  Or maybe you know where your quiet place is, but you just haven’t had time to go there.

When you look around your community, I’m certain that you can find many quiet places.  Pick one and call it your own. 

I found a little chapel on the grounds of Downing House that is just perfect.  The problem is I seldom go to that little chapel.

However, recently I had the opportunity to sit by a fireplace in a mountain cabin on a rainy day and read John Grisham’s The Pelican Brief.  Talk about rest.  Yes, and I’m sure that God enjoyed the time too.  It’s not always about praying and Bible reading-even though those should be important activities in your rest.

After you find that quiet place, go there and spend some quality time with God and rest in His arms.  Listen to Jesus when He says, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.”

 

2009 QuietWaters Leadership Retreat
For pastors and church boards
Scheduled for July 23-26, 2009 HAS BEEN CANCELLED
 
We regret that due to a lack of registration we have cancelled this Retreat.  If you would like information about how you and your church board can learn to work in partnership, please contact Jim Schlottman at 866-5-Waters (866-592-8377).
The QuietWaters Compass Online is published monthly as a free service of QuietWaters Ministries, whose mission is to renew, restore, and strengthen Christian leaders and their families. Opinions expressed in this publication are not necessarily those of QuietWaters Ministries, its personnel or trustees. Material contained in this publication is not intended as a substitute for the professional assistance you can receive from a counselor, or health care provider. Requests for permission to reprint articles should be directed to the editor at the address below.
 
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QuietWaters Ministries
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Midlife Transition

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[dropcap style=”font-size: 60px; color: #9b9b9b;”] T [/dropcap]his year my uncle bought a “Hot Rod.” The yellow Ford pictured below is the realization of many a 1950s teen’s dream. Obviously it’s been my uncle’s dream too. Now nearing his seventies, he is realizing that dream. However, purchasing such a car is also a common symptom of midlife crisis. Perhaps his is an example of a very late onset midlife crisis. In her article titled “Midlife Transition: Embracing Your ‘Second Adulthood,’” Dr. Holly Schut addresses the phenomenon of the delayed onset of midlife. In 2008, Dr. Holly Schut launched Midlife Momentum, a ministry designed to aid people in midlife and beyond to live with God-given meaning and purpose. She has a masters in religious education from Western Seminary and a doctorate of ministry from Sioux Falls Seminary. She, along with her husband, Al, has served churches in Pella, Iowa; Portage, Michigan; Corsica, South Dakota; Brandon, Wisconsin; and Haiti. Her ministry has focused on education, spiritual formation, and congregational care. In midlife herself with three grown children and three grandchildren, Holly senses the momentum growing. In this issue we also address the “Great Expectations” of ministry from the perspective of the ministry spouse.

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The Frog Run

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A Digital Help Toward Renewal from QuietWaters Ministries
Volume 9, Number 4April 2009
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Greetings!

When I receive a call enquiring about our counseling program from a pastor, a pastoral spouse, or a missionary, I’m often talking to someone who is tired and burned out.   Burn out does come from over work, but not over work alone.  Burn out occurs when over work is accompanied by discouraging words from those around you.  Are you feeling defeated by negative words spoken by a congregation member?  Then read on and learn a lesson from a frog.
 
Please forward this Compass Online to someone who would be encouraged to read about frogs.
 
Your church board would benefit from “Team Renewal.”  Forward this Compass Online issue to your leaders and encourage them to consider joining us this summer for the Leadership Retreat, “Overcoming the Peaks and Valleys.” 
 
Check out the Coupon below. 
 
Blessings,
 
Jim
 
The Frog Run

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by Jim Schlottman
Once upon a time there was a bunch of tiny frogs who arranged a running competition.  The goal was to reach the top of a very high tower.  A big crowd had gathered around the tower to see the race and cheer on the contestants.  The race began.
 
Honestly:  No one in the crowd really believed that the tiny frogs would reach the top of the tower.  You heard statements such as:  “Oh, WAY too difficult!”  “They will NEVER make it to the top.”  Or:  “Not a chance that they will succeed.  The tower is too high!”
 
The tiny frogs began collapsing one by one. Except for those, who in a fresh tempo were climbing higher and higher. The crowd continued to yell, “It is too difficult!  No one will make it!”  More tiny frogs got tired and gave up.
 
But ONE continued higher and higher and higher.  This one wouldn’t give up!
 
At the end everyone else had given up climbing the tower.  Except for the one tiny frog who, after a big effort, was the only one who reached the top!
 
THEN all of the other tiny frogs naturally wanted to know how this one frog managed to do it?  A contestant asked the tiny frog how he had found the strength to succeed and reach the goal.  It turned out that the winner was DEAF!
 
The wisdom of this story is:  Never listen to other people’s tendencies to be negative or pessimistic, because they take your most wonderful dreams and wishes away from you–the ones you have in your heart!
 
Always think of the power words have.  “The tongue has the power of life and death” (Proverbs 18:21).
 
A friend sent me this email; you may have received it too.  As I read this story, I thought of its application to you as a pastor-Christian leader.  It may be the whispered words or the overheard comments that invade your dreams. 
 
It may be the well meaning leaders who say:  “Oh, WAY too difficult a program for our church.”  “You will NEVER make that budget.”  “Not a chance that we will succeed with that program.”  “The goal is too high.”  Sound familiar?
 
The most important statement in the email was that above all:  Be DEAF when people tell YOU that you cannot fulfill your dreams!
 
Remember:  Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God.”  (Matthew 19:26 and Mark 10:27)
 
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Join us this summer at beautiful Snow Mountain Ranch to discover how you can lead better together. Whether you’re a Pastor or lay leader join us as we explore leadership from the perspective of love-trust relationships, as collaborative covenant, as strengthening relationships in the midst of conflict. Our leadership is a Kingdom of God matter, He is relying on us! 
 

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To redeem this coupon, simply register the three of you and then send an email to [email protected] requesting your $100 discount.  Please include the promo code “Our Team.” 
 
Upon verification of your registrations your church will be sent a check for $100.
 
Feel free to share this special coupon offer and promo code with friends by forwarding this Compass Online.
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The QuietWaters Compass Online is published monthly as a free service of the QuietWaters Ministries, whose mission is to renew, restore, and strengthen Christian leaders and their families. Opinions expressed in this publication are not necessarily those of QuietWaters Ministries, its personnel or trustees. Material contained in this publication is not intended as a substitute for the professional assistance you can receive from a counselor, or health care provider. Requests for permission to reprint articles should be directed to the editor at the address below.
 
James L. Schlottman
QuietWaters Ministries
(303) 639-9066
 
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Integrity

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[dropcap style=”font-size: 60px; color: #9b9b9b;”] W [/dropcap]e have a crisis in this nation, but I’m not talking about the recent financial crisis that has been in the news. The crisis I’m talking about is a crisis of leadership—Christian leadership. George Barna and others have been credited with saying that the behavior of Christians regarding divorce, law suits, materialism, and so forth is not significantly different from that of non-Christians. At Quiet Waters Ministries this has been evident in some of the pastors who have attended our Leadership Counseling Intensives. Yes, we see the inappropriate behavior that results in moral failure of pastors, and we have been privileged to help restore them to fellowship with their Lord. But we have also seen an even larger number of pastors and their spouses who have come to us after being hurt and abused by the lay leadership of their churches. Our experiences have brought us to the conclusion that there is a crisis in Christian leadership, both among pastors and lay leaders. We have learned that in most of the situations where pastors and their spouses were hurt and abused, the lay leaders were not intentionally causing…

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So Send We You

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[dropcap style=”font-size: 60px; color: #9b9b9b;”] E [/dropcap]very year at least 5,000 missionaries leave the field prematurely because of excessive stress involving personal, family, social, and ministry-related problems. Those remaining on the field face life stressors at least 2–3 times those experienced by individuals at home in the United States. (Source: Narramore Christian Foundation) That staggering statistic is often overlooked as we hear our returning missionaries tell their missionary stories on Missions Sunday. As you listen to their stories and feel your heart go out to those they are reaching with the gospel, have you ever wondered how the missionaries are really coping. Have you stopped to ask them how their children were doing, perhaps attending boarding school or going to college in the States? Do you ask how they were getting along with the other missionaries on the field? These are difficult questions, but if they are not asked and answered, your missionaries will return to the field with many unmet needs. You are a sender of this missionary. Do you know how to be a sender, and do the members of your church understand what it means to send a missionary to the field?

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Pastors and the Public Square

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[dropcap style=”font-size: 60px; color: #9b9b9b;”] S [/dropcap]tep out of the traffic! Take a long, loving look at me, your High God, above politics, above everything.” In this passage from The Message paraphrase of Psalm 46:10, Eugene Peterson captures a current daily experience that is impacting each of our lives. In the past few months we’ve been overrun with political rhetoric, and it’s only just begun. Those vying for the office of president of the United States have determined that we need more time to consider their candidacy, so they started campaigning earlier than in the past. Every time we turn on the television or radio, we hear discussions about the latest political debate or faux pas. In that environment, it is very difficult to place God above politics. I’m sure you, at times, feel like I do—I’m standing in the middle of rushhour traffic. However, that traffic isn’t cars but a political process of which we Americans are proud. It’s on the wheels of this political process that we will elect our next national leader.At war and with many domestic issues at risk, how can we “step out of the traffic”? How can we place God above the political process? And as a pastor, do you play the role of traffic cop or move away from all traffic? Not one to avoid a challenge, I asked Kevin Miller to address this challenging issue of politics in this edition of Compass. He has titled it “Pastors and the Public Square.” Although we say it on the opposite page, I probably should state again, “Opinions expressed in this publication are not necessarily those of the Quiet Waters Ministries, its personnel or trustees.” Actually,

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Harmless?

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[dropcap style=”font-size: 60px; color: #9b9b9b;”] S [/dropcap]everal months ago, the author of this issue’s article “Harmless?” told me about her experience. When she said she was thinking of writing a book about her story, I asked her to share a portion of it in Compass. That was prior to the media frenzy brought on by the fall of Ted Haggard and other Colorado clergy. With Amy’s story as the lead in this issue, we’re addressing the timely and difficult topic of infidelity among ministry leaders. It is my hope that you will find Amy’s story painful to read but eye opening to the problem. “Harmless?” is a true story lived out by the author (whose real name is not Amy Chanan) in which she describes the high price paid when we become involved in pornography and infidelity. She also makes the strong point that society is wrong when it tries to get us to believe that pornography is just harmless fun. With the help of Dave Ragsdale and Mike Williams, we are providing both avoidance and restoration strategies to ministry leaders and congregational leaders regarding this topic of infidelity. Dave Ragsdale is our director of counseling and consulting and has extensive experience with helping fallen ministry leaders. In his article, “Lead Us Not into Temptation,” Dave

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Living Under the Shadow of Idealization

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[dropcap style=”font-size: 60px; color: #9b9b9b;”] W [/dropcap]ith this issue of Compass, you will experience a little bit of the past summer’s Quiet Waters Leadership Couples Retreat. It would be great if the wonderful, romantic dinner where we learned how each gentleman “popped the question” to his future wife. You would have enjoyed the wonderful Sunday morning service as Rev. Dave Reck led each couple in renewing their vows. What I can provide is a glimpse into the learning experienced by those who attended. This year’s Retreat speaker, Dr. Ron Nydam, writes in this issue of Compass about the important role of “Idealization” in a pastor’s life and family. He shared this concept at the Leadership Couples Retreat. In his article, “Living under the Shadow of Idealization” Nydam writes, “This experience of being idealized is both a usual and necessary part of parish ministry, not something to be somehow ‘corrected’ or seen in a negative light.” As pastors and spouses, we often lament the idealization we experience, but Nydam challenges us to recognize it as something necessary for us to live out our role as pastor or pastor’s spouse. This summer’s Retreat also provided time for spouses to spend time together, and leading that time was our other contributor to this issue, author and speaker, Ruth Van Zee.

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