Did you happen to notice that I did not send you a January Compass Online? I hope you did. I chose not to create a January issue because of all that has been going on with the preparations to open our new Retreat and Ministry Center. Read below about the Retreat opening.
by Jim Schlottman
Some of you may have listened, as I did, to Tiger Woods give a public apology for his moral failure. One comment that I found particularly interesting was, “Parents used to point to me as a role model for their kids. I owe all those families a special apology.”
As a pastor you are a role model not only to kids, but to everyone with whom you come in contact. If you let them know you’re a pastor, they set a higher behavioral expectation. God did too when He said in Titus 1, “Since an overseer is entrusted with God’s work, he must be blameless–not overbearing . . . Rather he must be . . . one . . . who is self-controlled, upright, holy and disciplined. He must hold firmly to the trustworthy message as it has been taught, so that he can encourage others by sound doctrine and refute those who oppose it.”
Over the past couple of years there have been many incidents of unfaithfulness on the part of pastors, the most publicized of which was Ted Haggard. QuietWaters is only too familiar with the moral failure of pastors.
None of us should be surprised–after all, we have the Biblical knowledge that sin is a companion to all of us. It just takes on different forms in our lives. In a more than 20-year-old study, thirty-seven percent of the pastors surveyed had experienced inappropriate sexual contact outside of their marriage. How would you answer that question today?
Recently one of our local radio talk show hosts told about standing on the street with his wife as President Clinton’s motorcade drove by. He said he watched Clinton’s head turn as the President stared at the radio personality’s wife. Although I’ve never seen his wife, I presume that she is attractive.
What about you? Have you stared at a beautiful woman who was not your wife? We don’t like to admit that we even have thoughts that would take us into this area of our lives because we know that Jesus said, “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:27-28 (NIV)
Tiger Woods also said, “I thought I could get away with anything I wanted to . . . I thought I was entitled. . . .” I remember reading that a pastor told his therapist that he felt it was all right to reward himself for his hard work in ministry by viewing pornography.
I’m sure that you know some pastors in your seminary graduating class or in your town that have fallen. Guard yourself against moral failure. Put in place the necessary protections that you need as a pastor. You know them. But if you need a refresher on what those protections are, please give me a call.
QuietWaters Retreat Opens
On January 31 the first couple arrived at the new Retreat for their Leadership Counseling Intensive. Their host couple, Sid and Debbie Cook, greeted them at the door, helped them settle into their room, and had dinner all prepared for them.
Sid and Debbie are one of five couples who have volunteered to serve as hosts at the new Retreat. After a time of rest, we are hoping that Hal and Sally our host couple for years will join this group of five wonderful couples.
One of the great things that the first couple experienced is the many places in the Retreat where they could get away by themselves to process all that was taking place in the counseling.
They could relax in one of the many recliners in the lower level recreation room. A quiet time of mediation and prayer in the chapel was special. Or they could get comfortable in one of the leather chairs in the Mt. Evans room to read the book that was assigned by their counselor as homework.
The desk in the Pikes Peak Library that looks directly at Pikes Peak is the perfect place to work on the writing homework assignment.
There was ample time to enjoy a warm conversation with Sid and Debbie over a sumptuous meal.
This just gives you the highlights of the experiences pastors and missionaries have at the new Retreat.
If you are interested in attending a Leadership Counseling Intensive, Please call toll-free 866-5-Waters (866-592-8377) or email [email protected]
HELP OPEN THE DOOR
God has provided QuietWaters Ministries with an Open Door to ministry with the new QuietWaters Retreat and Ministry Center for pastors, missionaries and their families. To go through the Open Door we are asking you to help with your financial support of the purchase of the home. Is He prompting you to help us go through the Open Door?
To make an online donation to the Open Door Campaign CLICK HERE
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